Why Lesbian Online Dating Sucks

by Mary Gorham Malia

Lesbian online dating sucks for most gay girls because no one ever taught you how to use it properly. You’re approaching 21st century dating with 20th century ideas. It’s not going to work.

There are two big mistakes you’re making with Lesbian Online Dating.

The first big mistake is that you think it’s a candy store.

So you approach it with only your taste buds in mind.

You look for what feels familiar and appears to be sweet. You think that will do just fine.

And that’s not working is it?

The second big mistake you are making is being lazy. You rush through a search, you ignore details and you don’t make contact with enough women to get good results.

You send winks instead of messages. You favorite women who are in the top 10% for attractiveness and who probably won’t ever date you. (Can you say eye candy!)

You favorite women who clearly don’t want the same things you do in life. Then you ignore other lesbians who clearly want the same things you do in life and are equal to you in the looks category.

Then you say, “Online dating sucks for lesbians!”

I know sometimes the truth sucks. But when you can accept the truth and then change what you are doing, you get much better results.

Really for most lesbians, online dating is the best and easiest way to meet other single lesbians who are looking for a relationship.

So the truth is that your online dating skills suck. You quit before you’ve even gotten started. You bail on taking a chance because one or two other lesbians were crazy or rude or didn’t respond to you.

Hello! The truth is you don’t want to respond to everyone who contacts you. And it is NOT rude to not respond back. Rude is sending mean, aggressive and demanding messages to someone you don’t even know because she didn’t respond back to you.

Hey Gay Girl! Get over yourself.

Online Dating for Lesbians Requires A Winning Attitude 

The attitude it requires is one of not giving up, being determined and sticking with the process. Spending time consistently doing searches, carefully reading profiles to ensure your desires are aligned and then consistently making contacts with other gay girls on the site.

That’s what gets results.

Does Online Dating Sound Like Work?

Good, then you’re getting the point I’m making. To get good results you have to do the work. You can’t go to the gym once and be fit. You have to go on a regular basis and work out consistently to get fit and to stay fit. Online dating isn’t any different.

So What Does It Take to Make Lesbian Online Dating Work?

1) You’ve got to be consistent in the amount of effort you put in

2) You’ve got to show up with the right attitude.

3) You’ve got to get real about yourself

4) You’ve got to approach lesbians who are aligned with what you want in life.

5) You’ve got to STOP GIVING UP on the search for love.

What are your questions about lesbian online dating? What’s not working for you?

Share with me in the comments section below.

Next time I’m going to talk about HOW LONG you should commit to the process of online dating to get results!

Let’s get a conversation going and bust this wide open.

I want to help you succeed at finding love!

Mary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life and divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from being lost and late to lesbian life to being a seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.

Her business, Gay Girl Dating, LLC, was founded on the belief that lesbian, gay, queer, bi and transgender women can live extraordinary lives when they understand the principles and practices that make life great and put these practices into action in their own lives.

Gay Girl Dating Coach, LLC | PO Box 10924 | Portland, ME 04104 |

| Office: 512-522-7494 |

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