About Mary G Malia

Mary G. Malia is the founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach and the Live Your Best Lesbian Life Tele-Summit, a global event featuring 16 amazing lesbians who live their lives out loud and successfully.

As a consultant to Fortune 100 and 500 companies, privately held engineering firms and national nonprofit organizations, she’s helped executives and aspiring leaders groom themselves for success.

Now as an out lesbian author, speaker, dating consultant and coach, she brings that same expertise to smart, accomplished and busy lesbians.

She help’s you navigate a whole new way of dating in the age of technology. Working with Mary, you’ll discover what you need to hone in on, focus on and what to ignore. Stop wasting your time and start dating for long lasting love and success.

As a dating and relationship expert, Mary has not only experienced the struggle of being successful, single and lonely, but witnessed many other lesbians struggling with the same issues of loneliness, feeling lost and being totally discouraged about the dating scene and relationships.

Mary’s vision is to be the leading resource for lesbians who want to break through the barriers to finding happiness and lasting love in their lives. With a special focus on women who are dating for the first time in many years, late to lesbian life women and lesbians who have been widowed, her compassion and know-how helps these women learn how to navigate the road to lesbian love.

As the founder and organizer of lesbian focused community groups in multiple states, with members numbering in the thousands, she brings her unique philosophies to women dating women wherever she can. Her unique focus is as a ”Step by Step You Can Live an Extraordinary Life” Gay Girl Dating Coach because happiness is more than dating!

Her business, Gay Girl Dating, LLC, was founded on the belief that lesbian, gay, queer, bi and transgendered women can live extraordinary lives when they understand the principles and practices that make life great and put these practices into action in their own lives.

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Marla Ryder October 20, 2011 at 11:59 AM

Sign me up baby! How much do you charge old roomies???


T. Radford January 24, 2012 at 7:44 PM

I’m interested in the lesbian focused community groups, Mary.


Kathy Porter March 27, 2012 at 7:18 AM

I really enjoyed your post “Late Arrivals”. It seems that when I am honest about the fact I was married before and had children, it’s like a red flag. The question is always asked are you sure or how do you know you want to be a lesbian? I have been turned down several times because I was married to a man. No matter how I try to explain myself they already have the opinion this isn’t what I really want. Even though I know this is what I want. I am 57 and I grew up in an age where I tried to fit in, by being good and marrying a man. I am not sorry for my children and I cherish every day I have them. I am happier than I’ve ever been making the choice to be a lesbian. Thank you for your insight.


Tadmora Simkins- Respectful Family communication Counselor January 31, 2014 at 3:07 AM

hi Kathy,

i am also like you, an ex married to a man lesbian with a grown up 21 year old daughter and have gone through this game myself. So if you feel like exchanging and supporting another please feel free to contact me.


Ana Maria August 9, 2012 at 1:31 AM

Hi, I just found you on Facebook and what a breath of fresh air you are!!!
I am 53 and have only realized that I was a lesbian a couple of years ago…so your website and videos are most appreciated …..I married at 19 and had 3 beautiful children, all grown up and on their own. My husband passed away nearly 2 years ago, and although I loved him , I just new there was something missing , wrong? I have moved to another state (I’m in Australia) and started a new life. Only a hand full of my dearest friends know about my “new” path and they are brilliant about it. My children well I will come clean with them in the future…at the moment I’m just trying to find my feet in the Lesbian world! It is scary but oh so exciting! I am very much looking forward to being able to have access to your notes and videos…I cannot post on FB as my son is my friend and a lot of people don’t know and I’m not ready to open up as yet.
Thank you for what you are doing , it is wonderful!!


Kim December 4, 2013 at 10:50 PM

kudos to you Ana Maria!


Rosie October 9, 2012 at 7:38 AM

great reading! I am 57, and 1st time single and out with my family. I was in two long term relationships right after another. 1st one a stepping stone, second a rebound ..but enjoyed my life.. Looking forward to dating, do you have any plans on visiting Az to speak?


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