Never forget you are one of a kind!

by Mary Gorham Malia

“Never forget that you are one of a kind.

Never forget that if there weren’t any need for you in all your uniqueness to be on this earth, you wouldn’t be here in the first place.

And never forget, no matter how overwhelming life’s challenges and problems seem to be, that one person can make a difference in the world.

In fact, it is always because of one person that all the changes that matter in the world come about. So be that one person.”

- R. Buckminster Fuller

Screen Shot 2012 11 10 at 5.49.43 PM Never forget you are one of a kind!Buckminster Fuller, aka Bucky, entered my life during my first stint in college. I was in a two-year program studying horticulture and landscape design. The class was assigned a year-end project to create a three-dimensional landscape design project to a scale of 1 inch = 10 feet.

The project required a building of some sort along with the landscape design piece all being created in miniature. I had been reading some of Bucky’s writings for an English class I was taking and was intrigued with the idea of geodesic domes. Geodesic domes are sort of old-school these days, but back in the 70’s they were a new idea in architecture. Think of Disney’s geodesic world globe in Epcot. That was such a unique structure at that time.

It took some work but I found a geodesic dome pattern to copy and use to create a three-domed structure to scale for my project. This was long before the Internet and easy access to information. It took a couple of weeks of research and help from an able librarian to find a book with patterns that I could copy.

That project sticks out in my head not only because I got an A on the project but because I did something I’d never done before. I took a chance on using the dome concept and put in my best effort. It paid off. I created that project so many years ago, but I still feel proud of the results.

Today I was checking Gay Girl Dating Coach on Facebook and I saw the quote by Bucky that was posted by Robyn Harper at Gay Girl Revolution. I follow her writing and love so many of the inspirational quotes she shares. This one hit me at just the right time.

Each of you needs to know you are needed, necessary and no matter how yucky you may feel, you could be the one person that changes someone else’s life for the better.

Sometimes we need to be reminded that we are powerful and extraordinary beings. We need to read a story in the paper or online that tells us about someone else’s struggle and reminds us that perhaps our struggle isn’t so bad after all.

We have so many stories right now with Hurricane Sandy having done so much damage; people are struggling. People lost their lives. Other people lost their homes and all of their belongings.  Those of us that were not affected have so much to be thankful for today, tomorrow and for many days to come.

Screen Shot 2012 11 10 at 5.37.01 PM Never forget you are one of a kind!I needed to be reminded of that today. I have so much for which I am grateful.

So all this brings me back to Robin Harper sharing Bucky’s quote. I shared with one dear friend, Kim, that I was having a down day. She asked me a couple of questions and in a matter of three minutes she’d help me get out of the rut and into a great mood.

My One of a Kind

She was that “one person.”  She is definitely one of a kind and I’m feeling particularly blessed that she’s in my life and such a good friend. So I told her how much her friendship means to me.

Is there someone who show’s up for you when you need it and gives you the kick in the butt you need? Is there someone who shows up to give you a hug when you need it? Have you said thank you lately?

Who is the person that is making a difference in your life today? Tell her or him. Tell them out loud. Facebook their fabulousness. Call them. Give em a shout out. Cook her a special meal. Be that one person.

So Kim thank you!!  Robin Harper, thank you too!  And to each and every one of you reading this today, I am so glad you’re here! Thank you for being a big part of what I am grateful for in life each day.

Now it’s your turn…

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Mary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life and divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from being lost and late to lesbian life to being a seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.

Her business, Gay Girl Dating, LLC, was founded on the belief that lesbian, gay, queer, bi and transgender women can live extraordinary lives when they understand the principles and practices that make life great and put these practices into action in their own lives.

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