As a lesbian mother of two children, I’ve learned that my children are not only smart but wise in their own right as individuals. Recently I was part of a panel discussion with 3 other YourTango.com experts – Dr. Frankie Bashon of Little Gay Book, Rick Clemons of The Gay Man’s Life Coach and Cameron Gannt of Instigaytor.com
I’m sharing it here and I’d love to know what you think. Leave a comment. What’s your experience? Does being lesbian help or hurt your children?
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Excellent video! So glad to see this talked about.
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I just came out. My daughter and I are starting to have these conversations, as I am starting to date. She is 12, and, a very sweet girl. She has been very understanding and my biggest supporter. I appreciate this video. Mary, you have helped me. Thank you
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Having a son with my ex was a conscious decision on our parts. My son, now 11, was born to 2 moms. That’s all he’s ever known. Yes there have been questions — “Zach’s mom, does Zach really have 2 moms?” “Zach’s mom, does Zach have a dad?” You could always see the little wheels turning in their heads. lol
As he’s gotten older, I am now a single mom – my ex is no longer in his life due to her drug abuse. I will put my parenting skills up against anyone’s. He is happy, healthy, well adjusted, an honors student, active in athletics, very empathetic & an all around good kid.
It’s difficult dating at my age with a child. Most women my age have grown kids & grand kids or they are getting ready to retire. They don’t want to raise any more.
I’ve had precious few dates. And only slightly more offers. There are a lot of folks to sleep with. There are a lot of crazies out there. As a mom, I know his welfare (if I find someone to date) is of the utmost importance.
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Hi Mary
I got maried at 35 gave birth to a boy. Got divorced and as my child was 7 I could not date man any more and decided to meet lesbians in Frankfurt
This woman sat down in this Lesbians over 40 Meeting and draw my atention. I was hot about her and invited her home to visitt me on a weekend. Well that did not work so well. My son did not like the idea of me dating a woman and since then he kept on saying to the women with whom I had a relationship . “You are not my mom.I have only one mom”. He is now a she and is 21 and has a crush on this other transgender man to woman. Did I do something wrong?
I always had this feelings of guilt. Not about dating women but of having not taken parenthood as important as i should have done. I did not want to be a mam in the first place.
Parenthood should not happen by mistake it should be concidered very seriously and be choosen very much from the heart.
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