Comments on: She broke up with me out of the blue

By: Rita Soto

Rita Soto — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 23:42:59 +0000

“Now there comes a time in everyone’s life” that we can’t scape from being heart broken.
My strategy is to have a rich life (friends, projects I love and am passionate about,exercise,meditation,etc),and keeping in mind that one day it will be all right.
I also tell myself that this is life, and these situations only make me stronger and wiser. I will continue to be honest and respectful to myself and others and live in the moment, without analyzing too much…
Life is now, is so precious!
I will continue to love and look for love.Whatever it is, I will do it!
I will be grateful for the lesson and do my best not to waist a moment complaining and regretting.
I can feel wonderful if I decide to, even if I am heart broken (well,not so wonderful…).
And I also like to think about other people in the same situation or worse and I like to feel compassion for them, many don’t know how to deal with it…
I live in a wonderful city (New York) and I just love moving ,walking around and it helps me to feel better ,anytime.
Like you said Mary, we can and DESERVE to reconstruct our beautiful,amazing,magical life…

Thank you Mary, for another great post!

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 22:57:33 +0000

Hi, Mary, your article was very interesting and insightful. I am glad to see in writing some positive points said about the one who does the breaking up. I got so caught up with how she felt, how sweet and beautiful she was, all the positive things about her that I overlooked the things about her that were the deal breakers. I wanted this relationship so badly that I did fall in love with her, I poured myself into the relationship, then of course I crashed and burned. I started having panic attacks, which is my body’s way of telling me “stop. Something is wrong. Pay attention.” After the breakup, she is ok and we have talked a lot about it, but it still hurts both of us. I miss the hell out of her but I can’t do anything about it. Wanting something so badly doesn’t mean that it’s right for us. And we can only fool ourselves so long. We have to pay attention to our own “signs”.

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 21:00:45 +0000

I’ve learned that when you encounter women that have red flags popping up to let them the hell go. Cut them off.
I know what I’m looking for and what I want and it’s a relationship.
She just got out of a relationship? It’s a no for me. I’m not a rebound.
I don’t put out either. I find that women think that sex must happen so quickly. No!
And women that are NOT emotionally available. Ugh! I’ve just encountered this and am proud of myself for not even investing anymore of my time in her. She always tried to make herself out as sweet and what not. She always had excuses, were some of them valid? Possibly, but she never did anything to redeem herself. I loved her energy, her personality, her wit and humour BUT I had to shake myself and say, “Honey she is not emotionally available. Period. Cut her off!”

By: Janet

Janet — Tue, 16 Sep 2014 13:34:36 +0000

Hi all,
Here’s a little of my story. I just ended dating a woman after 3—4 months. She did feel I ended out of the blue. I feel bad that she’s hurt. But I feel I have to go with my gut.
I use to go full force into dating, but I have learned to not put my whole heart in right away. I wasn’t planning my whole future after 3 months.
There were lots of things that weren’t working for me. I’ve settled to many times. Coach Mary Malia has taught me to pay attention, she is showing you who she is. She has taught me that if it’s not working in the beginning it’s not going to work later. So I will continue on my journey to find my match, my partner, my honey I’m home!