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By: Mary Malia

Mary Malia — Mon, 25 Aug 2014 19:40:50 +0000

Hi Not Bad,
And you don’t have to grow old alone. Get out there and do what it takes – and a big part of that is just not quitting till you find her.
And of course, Gay Girl Dating Coach is here to help!
hugs, Mary

By: Not bad @ 54

Not bad @ 54 — Fri, 20 Jun 2014 01:11:10 +0000

Hi Mary-Plenty of good advice. I have sporadically dated (some online) for the past 7 years, apparantly I didn’t want to work hard enough for it-I just quit. Time is marching on so I plan on trying once again, if it doesn’t work out you will be hearing from me-I do not want to grow old alone.

By: Mary Malia

Mary Malia — Mon, 12 May 2014 16:27:50 +0000

Hi Gina,
It’s pretty common that women find online dating discouraging. It’s also means that most women go at it in the same way and without a clearly empowering mind set or strategy so that it doesn’t become totally discouraging. The dream of an easy match doesn’t happen often, usually it takes understanding how it REALLY works, time and determination plus persistence.

It’s the same things we need to make a relationship last a long long time. :-)!

It’s my wish for every women that she find a great match. Sending you a big hug! Mary

By: gina

gina — Mon, 12 May 2014 06:02:06 +0000

Can I get a witness? Yah, that’s my experience, too. So discouraging.

By: Shelly Moses

Shelly Moses — Mon, 05 May 2014 21:02:36 +0000

I have been online dating for years. It’s always the same thing! I send messages and get no replies, or woman I am NOT interested in message me…I always reply! I have given up. Most woman on these sites just put a profile to see themselves. They do not pay to write/read messages. Even when it’s FREE (POF.com), they don’t read or don’t reply.

By: Mary Malia

Mary Malia — Mon, 14 Apr 2014 18:07:19 +0000

Hi C,
There are lots of things that happen. It’s extremely common for break-ups to happen at 1 month, 3 months, 1 year, 5 and 7 years. Why it’s happening to you, I can’t tell you without a long conversation. What may be happening in part is that you’re going soooooo slow, the women just give up. The relationship has to continue to grow in intimacy both emotional and physical.

As we get older, we get pickier. Sometimes for the right reasons and sometimes for the wrong reasons. Can you change this pattern? Yes! Once you identify a pattern, it gives you insight that can help you shift what’s going on. Further work on identifying what’s been working, not working and becoming crystal clear on what you want in love and life will also make a very big difference.

You may want to consider booking a complimentary strategy session with me to discuss this in more detail. You can get in touch with me at mary@www.gaygirldatingcoach.com to set up a time.
Thank you for sharing your story C.

By: Frustrated and baffled

Frustrated and baffled — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 19:05:53 +0000

Wondering if you would be game to take on the subject of the ‘3 month’ dating strategy? I am a 52 year old woman who has been doing what I call ‘slow motion dating’ for the past 3 years… It goes like this: I meet someone online and we click. We meet in person and there is a spark. Will it become friends or lovers or nothing? Time will tell. So, over the course of the next 3 months, we date, getting together an average of once a week. It’s fun dating stuff — movies and dinner, walks or shows. Getting to know each other. No drama, no tension. Fun. No expectations. However, without exception, things break apart around the 3 month period and just fizz out. It’s always at that point that I apparently no longer look so great (although I am apparently okay enough to warrant an average of 13.5 dates), and they suddenly turn (some seem to even switch personality, at that point) and go back to the dating sites, aggressively searching for the ‘next new thing.’ Without exception, they find a flaw of some sort in me (which, hey, believe it or not, I have a few… I am only human). Needless to say, this has been a frustrating (and sometimes painful) experience. And time consuming. I’m looking for a long-term relationship and am not wanting to spend the rest of my life dating to the grave in 3-month increments! I’ve been in sastifying relationships in the past but have been single for a while now. I’ve been dating on and off for several years (and I threw the ‘bed first, then date’ strategy out the window early in the dating process, lol, as that never worked out). The women I’ve been dating in the past 3 years aren’t flakes — they are professionals who are relatively successful, cute, warm, funny, etc. But they can’t seem to stick around. Do you have any clue what this phenonmena is about? What’s up with my finding myself a ‘toss back,’ again and again, after 12 or 13 dates? And, more importantly, is there a way to change this? This never happened when I was in my 20s (I reentered the dating world when I was 42). But we also didn’t have online dating, back then. Do you have any insights and would you be willing to write a post about it? If it’s something I need to change in me/my approach, I’d love to figure that out.

Thanks.
C

By: Tanya

Tanya — Wed, 08 Jan 2014 02:59:02 +0000

Hello Mary,
What a refreshing breath to see a site that gives me hope in this vast lonely womanless existence. I have not had a normal relationship, since 2009. I ve resorted to contacting younger women for a fee and, well that doesn’t go well. I’m re training and nearly finished a second degree. I ve had many life challenges, crashed my car, re learned to walk, on my second apartment, since My car crash in 2000. Each time, I think I m ready to engage in dating it is disheartening when I do not have minimum requirements to engage women my age. I live alone . I’ve come along way ,please help. himany walls, road blocks, but I’ve perservered. I want to feel love again. I hope you can help, a clueless and shy lesbian

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By: Mary

Mary — Mon, 29 Oct 2012 04:06:48 +0000

Hi Sierra,
Well some dating sites do allow women to identify as femme, butch, queer, gay, uptight, packing or whatever. Most do not. So read closely, and be really honest in your own profile that about what you want in your lady/date. If you are only attracted to butch, say it!! If you are only attracted to femme. Save everyone a lot of trouble and just say it! And thanks for the question!! xo Mary