Survey Surprises Shared with You

by Mary Gorham Malia

Hello all you fabulous, amazing, wonderful, juicy and succulent women! I have survey surprises to share with you.

Whether you call yourself lesbian, gay, queer, bi, butch, femme, tran or whatever, I want to thank each one of you with all my heart for taking time to participate in the survey that I launched after the Summit. I learned so many things that truly surprised me about you and I want to share it here with you.

But before I do let me tell you that because of what you’ve told me, I’ve created a very special video series that will launch this week. It’s called:

Lesbian Gamechangers: The Three Hidden Keys to Lasting Love and HappinessIts FREE!

and it’s my gift to you. I hope you’ll join us. I’ll send out more info this week.

So here goes…

SinglePie Survey Surprises Shared with You What is your relationship status?

Wow, I was really surprised at the number of single women!

MostWantInLifePie Survey Surprises Shared with You What Do You Most Want in Life?

With so many single women participating in the survey, it’s no surprise to realize that you want a great relationship.

WhatGetsIntheWayPie Survey Surprises Shared with You What Gets In Your Way?

Ok, so here was a really big surprise – Overcoming Fear is by far the big block followed quickly by self-doubt.  That’s a hard place to live in but there are some powerful strategies you can use to move forward and overcome these blocks.WhatKeepsYouFromLYBLLPie Survey Surprises Shared with You

Wow again! I’m not surprised as I see the other results but this was a far bigger block than I thought.

WhatDoYouNeedHelpWithPie Survey Surprises Shared with You

And finally the realization that self-love is limiting so many of you and keeping you from having happiness and love along with knowing how to create a lasting relationship.  What you’ve shared is powerful insight and I hope as you look at these results and remember your own responses perhaps you’d share a few thoughts.

Does this surprise you? Tell me in the comments section below. I read every comment because I learn something from each one of you.

with hugs and love,

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Happiness is more than a date!

 Survey Surprises Shared with YouMary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life and divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from being lost and late to lesbian life to being a seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.

Her business, Gay Girl Dating, LLC, was founded on the belief that lesbian, gay, queer, bi and transgender women can live extraordinary lives when they understand the principles and practices that make life great and put these practices into action in their own lives.


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{ 5 comments… read them below or add one }

Tana July 22, 2012 at 1:57 PM

If sooo many of us are single and sooo many of us want a long-lasting love relationship, why are we having such a difficult time finding each other?

And why do the CRAZY ones always find me??? Bipolars, alcoholics and, most recently, a conspiracy theorist. *rolling eyes*


Lisa July 23, 2012 at 7:00 AM

Thanks for the survey. When you put it down on paper like that It is more helpful then just in my head. There are so many thing I would like to ask and say. So I look forward to more of your post.


Jo July 24, 2012 at 10:08 AM

(((raises hand))) Single lesbian and survivor of three crazy relationships here. I’m now scared to date. We will never have successful, lasting relationships until we leave the lesbian drama and the role-playing/gender role expectations behind. I want a PARTNER to walk through life with and share joys and sorrows and help each other out. I do not want to constantly be expected to take care of someone or fill some kind of ideal of some b.s. fantasy that because I’m more femme we will have a male/female role with me again…taking care of someone.


Santanta July 26, 2012 at 7:48 PM

I want the really great relationship but I would also would like to know where is my Lesbian community. I would like to have lesbian friends who understand me. Like when I give another woman a compliment, they can understand and appreciate how I feel. My straight friends don’t get it and don’t understand or even try to understand how. I feel alone.


Cathy July 29, 2012 at 1:02 PM

Good analysis on the survey, Mary. We are sometimes quick to say women are complex, so true. However, it appears in your survey that most women really need to first understand themselves and maybe read your ’14 dating traps’. A great easy-to-read book.
Having fallen in love, I know that LOVE alone won’t save the day and we need to realize that ALMOST doesn’t count.


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