The survey says some really interesting things my lesbian friends. You are all so awesome. There were so many responses I was stunned! I am grateful! Thank you to each of you that took the time to respond to the survey questions.
Survey Says...
You want to know what the survey results are right?
Ok, I’m sharing here:
I asked about age range. Here’s what you told me:
1. You are evenly divided by age, in your 30′s, 40′s and 50′s.
2. You’ve mostly been single a year or less and the next biggest group has been single a long time – 7+ years.
3. Most of you aren’t currently dating because you haven’t met someone you are interested in dating.
4. There is also a good size group of you that are dating and having fun! Great news.
5. The two biggest impacts of your visiting the Gay Girl Dating Coach website is learning different ways to think about relationship and dating plus knowing you’re not alone. That’s a big one isn’t it. We often feel so alone in this big world. (Here’s one secret about that… when you take a couple of minutes to leave comments about my blog posts, its a huge support to other women who are reading. So please do leave your thoughts and comments.)
6. What you want to learn more about includes how to
- increase your attraction energy,
- let go of bad experiences,
- go slow,
- know if someone is right for you,
- go from dating to a long term relationship
- and more about coming out.
What else did you tell me in the survey?
You were also very generous in taking time to share more personal thoughts. From women who’ve just come out, women who are trying to decide if they are going to leave a marriage to come out and transgendered women wanting to date. Some women want to learn more about coming out in different areas of life. Others want more stories. And others want to engage in conversation with other readers and share insights.
So what does this all mean?
Well it means a few things. You’ve told me what you want more of and that is important for me to know. I can be sure I’m focused on providing those answers and services to you. You’ve told me who you are. That’s really important to understanding what your needs are and your pain points.
I’m in the middle of developing some new services and products. I’d like it to be something that really meets your needs. And you are the best person to tell me what you need.
And my passion is that more and more women are living their BEST life!
That leads to my telesummit…
As we get ready to launch our telesummit – Life Your Best Lesbian Life! – on June 18th you’ve provided me with some insight on questions I can ask the women who are speaking during the event.
Do you want to know who is speaking? Yeah, I thought so. Ok, here’s the sneak peak. Just for you! It’s so exciting to share this list with you!
Our Lesbian Experts Are:
- Kate Clinton – Lesbian icon and political humorist
- Merryn Johns – Editor in Chief – Curve Magazine
- Nicole Breedlove – CEO and President of OurSistaCircle. A social networking website for lesbians of color worldwide
- Pauline Miriam – Founder and CEO – Hot Flash Dance Parties, LLC
- Liz Margolies, LCSW – Founder and Executive Director – National LGBT Cancer Network
- Traci Dinwiddie – Actress, Yogini, African Drummer, Part-time Bad Ass and Full Time Fruit Cake
- Shannon Wentworth – CEO and founding partner of Sweet, a lesbian travel company
- Dr. Frankie Bashon – Founder and CEO of Little Gay Book – Matchmaker, Therapist and Dating Coach
- Mimi Gonzalez – Proud Latina and professional comedian of almost twenty years
- Carolyn Gage – Lesbian feminist playwright, performer, director, and activist and Lambda Award winner
- Kathy Belge – Activist, Journalist and Guide to all things Lesbian on About.com
- Aliya Hallim-Bryn – Founder of Wonder-Women, a leadership organization, author, business woman and relationship consultant
- DJ Jodi Dustin – Rocking New England with T-dances for women and their families
- Poppy Champlin – Comedian, Improv Artist and a member of the Queer Queens of Comedy
- Barb Elgin, MSW, LCSW –Relationship and Dating Coaching for Single Lesbians and Lesbian Couples, Founder and Host of Lesbian Love Talk Radio Show
Ok, so don’t you want to sign up today? Well you can pre-register at http:liveyourbestlesbianlife.com right now. This event is my gift to you. There is no cost to register and attend these conversations. It all happens via phone calls and on the internet! You can call in or join via the web from anywhere.
Tell your friends about this event. I need YOUR HELP to get the word out! When you register for the event, you’ll be given a link to send to your friends. Share share share share about this event please.
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Here is my viewpoint on MY best lesbian life. There is a pecking order within the lesbian community. The Gold Star lesbians will always be the leader of the pack. They are “it.” They are pure and untainted by the male species. I understand the “purist” mentality. Next, are the lesbians who have never been confused about their sexuality but may have had one hetero relationship to shut up neurotic, religious parents. That relationship was quickly abandoned because it was more important for the lesbian to “be true” to her sexual identity. I get that “truth” mentality. Then, there are lesbians who are referred to as the “coming out later in life” which are latent homosexuals. These lesbians have been married and have biological children as a result of the marriage. They have had their ovaries tarnished by a man. I get that “blemished” mentality also. There are other coming out later in life lesbians, who didn’t have any guts and were too chicken to live their lesbian life due to fears of discrimination and bullying by others, who got married and adopted children because they didn’t want their ovaries tainted by a man. I get the “Fake I want to feel normal” mentality. I never dreamed I was going to be categorized and put in a box. In some ways my future looks bleak thinking about how I am going to work on developing and maintaining lesbian relationships in hopes I will marry. I want my lover to be opposite of me…not the same. I am ok with boobs and vaginas but that is as far as “same” that I want to go. Sometimes I wonder if I should just have hot lesbian sex and have girlfriends as non sexual associates and have 1-3 close non sexual female friends whether they are hetero females or lesbians. It doesn’t matter as long as they are women. I refuse to be put back into a box. I left home at age 21 to get out of the box my parents, church, and my town, and state had put me in. I started thinking for myself and have made many good decisions for myself. I have self esteem and confidence and nobody is going to minimize who I am. So, to all of the Gold Star lesbians…catch me if you can! Have a blessed day.
Let’s talk about North Carolina. This is important to me because if things don’t change I will be in a perpetual state of dating. (All of the names I am using are fictitious.) So, let me see. North Carolinian child molesters (one’s who haven’t been caught yet) can get married and have health insurance. Financial advisers who swindle millions of dollars from innocent grandparents can get married and have health insurance. North Carolinian burglars, who have not yet been arrested, can get married and have health insurance. North Carolinian ex convicts can get married and have health insurance. Pastors, who con money from innocent parishioners and followers with false promises, can get married and have health insurance. Crooked politicians can get married and have health insurance. This list can go on and on and as long as one name is John and the other name is Jane, then you are good to go with the benefits. The issue is not how “sinful” one is, the male/female name combination listed on the paperwork is ALL that matters. After all these people’s “sins” are already forgiven so why should states change how they do business. Then there is the matter of homosexuals. For arguments sake, if I was 1/16 percent lesbian I cannot get married to Susie and carry her on my health insurance. I have never, ever victimized a child, never victimized grandmother’s and grandfather’s, never stole in my life, and never went to prison. Neither have 99.9% of the LGBTQ population ever committed a crime. And, they pay their taxes! And, they are responsible parents if they have children! They don’t victimize. Imagine that! Hold that wonderful virtuous thought of law abiding homosexuals and transgendered folks. You said what? We can’t get married and have health insurance because of what? Oh, because of the religious right (which are not many)? Yup. Because there are two female names or two male names listed on the paperwork? Yup. That’s right. It’s paperwork. Paperwork can ALWAYS be changed. But, wait there’s more. I can be 100% lesbian and carry my children on my health insurance. No questions asked. I can be 100% lesbian and be married to my 100% gay male husband and have health insurance. No questions asked. Well, I’ll be damned. Have a blessed day.
i am in a similar ptosiion and interested in hearing what people say. I don’t like bars either. I have been going to different queer events. A reading at the book store and a stand-up comedy night. I just check the local alternative paper for events like political or artistic events that are queer-oriented. Or the bulletin boards at whatever queer or women’s bookstore you have in town. There are outreach religious groups too but I have a church I love already.The other night I went to an event by myself but people were really friendly and open. At the first event i went to I told the woman I met that I was just now coming out and she introduced me to a bunch of her friends. It was a nice scene with very kind people. I was surprised at how friendly and inclusive it felt. I had to psyche myself up to go by saying I was just there to absorb the atmosphere, be around some lesbians, and it totally worked. I came home feeling really great.