Are you a speeddater? Do you have what it takes to “date” 10 – 25 women in one night? Speed, endurance, ability to change direction quickly and a great sense of humor? That’s more dates than most women have in a year or two or three right?
Last week, I wrote about what happens at an event, this week let’s talk more about what you should do!
You’ve tried the bar scene and maybe a few other scenes like meet-up events or softball games. The problem can sometimes be that you don’t know who is single. You’re not sure if you can safely approach an interesting gay girl and not cause a scene with a girlfriend or other friends that are present.
Speed dating takes care of this question in one fell swoop. If a woman is at a speed-dating event, she is single. Period. End of question!
You are also going to have a lot less disappointment at a speed-dating event than can happen with online dating. You get to meet women up close and personal. You get to ask questions and tell your story. You get a chance to have that “sense” of her that only comes from meeting face to face.
Now let me just say that it is possible to go to a speed-dating event and not meet anyone you would want to see again. But then, you’ve only had to spend a few minutes with any woman there and you’ve not committed a whole evening, day, road trip, hotel room or cost of an airplane ticket to find out it’s never gonna work!
Chemistry can be almost instant right – that 30 seconds of breathing in her pheromones and having visual contact. So you get that piece out of the way easily and quickly. Another bonus to speed-dating.
Let’s look at 5 Speed Dating Tips to help you get the most out of this experience.
1. Ding Ding Ding
You only have a few minutes. If you can’t stand her, you only have a few minutes. If you like her, you only have a few minutes. If you’re not sure, you only have a few minutes. What’s really important here is to be a good listener. Listen to her!! Can I say it again – listen to her. Pay attention. Ok, next…
2. Deal Breakers
We all have deal breakers. Know your self and know your deal breakers but also be prepared to stretch. Your deal breaker could be a silly little rule you made up a few years ago that has nothing to do with anything really important – my dates must be no taller than 5’5”. So you missed out on that amazing woman who is 5’7” tall. Maybe it’s age for you. Your top limit is 48 and you just missed out meeting an amazing woman who is 49. I’m being serious here. Flex, stretch and really question yourself about your deal breakers. You get to have them, just tell me you explore the reason for having them now and again. Ok?
3. This Event Sucks! No… hold on…
It’s possible that you can attend an event and not meet anyone you want to see again. You might even realize it before the event begins. DON’T get negative and don’t shut down. Get creative! You might be meeting your next best friend, next boss, next employee or even the woman that will introduce you to Ms. Right. I’m serious here. Be open to possibility and that the universe has something really good for you if you will just stay open.
4. Bring fresh air with you
Breathe mints. Short and sweet. Bring them and use them. You might even need to offer them to the woman across the table from you. If you are nervous, you mouth gets dry. Dry mouths smell less friendly than moist mouths. Breathe mints. Short and sweet.
5. Keep it short and sweet
Typically you have about 3-5 minutes for a speed date. And you’re going to have 10 – 25 of them during an event. Don’t try to get your whole life story into 5 minutes! You’ll be exhausted before the evening is over. Don’t be a time hog. You’ve got to let her talk so you know something about her too. You should be exchanging information.
Now remember why you decided to sign up for this event. It’s a chance to try something different in a safe and secure environment. You’re going to meet women you’d never pick! You’re going to meet women that you think would never pick you! You’re going to show up sometimes and there will be no one you want to date but there will be someone who has something special for you. Remember these tips when you attend your first event or your next event.
Set your heart intentions before you walk in the door. The universe (God, Spirit, Goddess, Jesus, Buddha…) all want you to be blessed and grow. Here you go girl! Step up and speed-date!
I’ve got five more speed dating tips for you next week. In the meantime, join me for a free teleseminar on Monday where we are talking about online dating! It’s a fact that 61% of lesbians couples are meeting online. Click here for more info!