Comments on: I’m Getting Mixed Signals From This Lesbian I Met. What Do I Do?

By: Tracy

Tracy — Sun, 17 Mar 2013 16:59:49 +0000

All my relationship were long distance in the past & never local. May be different for each person.

By: angie

angie — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 20:23:01 +0000

Texting and FB is totally different than when you are having one on one conversation because you would see facial expression, body language etc… Maybe there was something about you that she didnt like and thats why she just wants to keep you as a friend. I dont see mixed signals she is telling in some many ways she is not interested in having a sentimental relationship with you! I agreed with previous comment stay local long distance relationships dont work out.

By: Michelle

Michelle — Tue, 05 Mar 2013 15:18:06 +0000

Yours is a lesson that is a hard learned one. 20/20 hindsight for me.
I have learned to change my expectations to avoid getting burned.
-Staying local keeps me in reality.
-Know exactly what it is you want and make sure her desires are aligned with yours- right off the bat.. If I know I’m ready for a serious relationship I’m not going to waste time pursuing someone who is only interested in casual dating or FWB.
Most importantly for me is.. It’s best not to fall in love until you know for certain she is on the same page. She may be the most attractive and cute looking thing who’s connected to her community, has similar values.. BUT… damn she doesn’t want a relationship at this time. That’s the deal breaker. You have to be able to walk away because you aren’t going to be that ‘special someone’ who is going to change her mind. That’s the magic of Disney- leave it there.

Good luck
M

By: giorgi

giorgi — Mon, 04 Mar 2013 15:48:30 +0000

Ah, yes, she gives you a card and writes, “I have been thinking of you, since before we ever met. I never knew that I could feel this way, be this way, love this way”. Or perhaps, she phones to tell you all the ways that she is going to show how much she cares foryou after all that she says you have done for her.

You arrive after driving over two hours from your home to pick her up from her work thinking that this is when she is going to let her hair fall down and you will see the love in her eyes. But, NO…she looks at you with the glare of a Gargoyle and you know in that instant she has nothing in person to give you.

It is all on the phone or in a card. But never a payoff where she gives you her…love for you…Because in person is not, as you said Mary…FANTASY.

I must say all in all I learned so much from dating her. I am better equipped to listen to that little voice inside me who said…she does not have the capacity to live up to her OWN words. Sat nam, Giorgi