Speed-dating has become enormously popular around the world over the last few years, and it’s not hard to understand why. It takes the complicated process of dating down to a simple snap judgment.
We’ve talked about online dating for a while now because there are lots of lessons to learn about online dating that only came into being in the last 10 years.
Speed dating has been around a little longer. Wikipedia says speed dating first started in Beverly Hills around 1998. So it’s just a few years older than online dating as a way to meet your future Ms. Right.
This type of event could be just right for you if you’d like a more structured (read that to mean safe and secure) way to meet single and available women than wandering around bars, looking at hundreds of photos online or hanging out at softball games with binoculars checking out the ladies!
Speed dating is an event that has very specific rules of engagement, provides for limited but focused conversations and allows you to chose who you want to meet for a longer “date.” If that woman picks you than your contact information is shared and ta da! A date can happen.
This kind of event is set up by an individual or a company. It has a set time to start and end.
When you arrive, the scene has been set for you. You get a number to wear and so does every other woman. You are either assigned to stay in one seat at a table for the event or to be a woman who moves from table to table to meet the ladies that are seated.
In the course of the evening, you’ll have a 5-8 minute conversation with each woman in the room. You’ll also have a rating sheet that you’ll fill out as you talk with each of the woman. That will help you keep track of your “likes” and “dislikes.”
At the end of the evening, the event host gathers up your rating sheets, collates the data and gets in touch with all the “matches” to share contact information.
Here’s the great thing that happens – you select the women you are interested in meeting on your rating sheet and you only get another woman’s contact info is she has also selected you. In sales we call this a warm lead. I might call it hot and say get moving girl! Don’t delay in making that call.
Here’s a tip. Most women worry about what to say during such a brief conversation. Research says you’ll get better results if you talk about travel than film! Research also says that you’ll make your decision about someone in the first 30 seconds! Wow right? But we know this happens already if we are telling ourselves the truth.
That snap judgement is also the thing that can work against us so we miss out on someone who is a really great match. Our “snaps” are not always our most brilliant decisions right?
Everyone who sits down at one of those tables is ready to get the answer a very simple question: do I want to see this gay girl again? And for that, we don’t need an entire evening. We really only need a few minutes.
What do you think? I’m going to be talking about speed-dating here for a few weeks and I’d love to hear your thoughts about it and your experiences too! Leave a comment now by clicking on the “comment” link below.
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