How do you celebrate your lesbian life? Milestones in life? Birthdays? Graduations? Special events? It’s seems that a couple of big ones are visiting me at the same time. My birthday is this week and my daughter is graduating from high school and will all too soon be heading out to college. I’m thrilled to be celebrating life and sharing the celebrations with some very dear and very fun friends.
In the last year, I’ve met and become good friends with an amazing group of lesbians. We cheer each other on, we laugh at each other and with each other, we goad each other and we celebrate everyone’s uniqueness. Two of us have birthdays close together so we are having a joint weekend birthday party at a summer camp on a small lake in the woods of Maine.
There is a constant game going on with this group. It’s an underlying competition to be the funniest, most outrageous and ingenious. That means there is a constant stream of laughter. Honestly, I laughed more in the last 8 months than in the previous 40 years of my life. The real joy is that we cheer each other on. I expect you to out-do me. I even want it. I want to be challenged by your own unique approach to life, love and being lesbian.
Do you have friends like this?
I hope so and if you don’t start praying for them. Tell the universe you want this kind of relationship in your life. Honestly you do.
Then decide to be open to who shows up. In the group sitting on the dock right now, there are two couples. One in their 30s and the other in their 50s. The rest of us range from 40 something to 50 something.
I’ve known the younger couple for over 10 years. They are adorable. I’ve known the older couple for just 8 months and they are one of the best gifts to come into my life in the last year. If you’d asked me a year ago what I’d be doing for my birthday in 2012, I would not have guessed this but it’s perfect. And it just seemed to unfold into my life over the last year.
The rest of us are content singles; happy women who are enjoying life and rich friendships. Not without struggle sometimes, but all determined to make the best of the hand we currently hold. Oh and I need to mention we did bring Shirley, our token heterosexual on this weekend. She gave each of the dogs (there were 7) a new camp name. Her own special gift.
One very creative and gifted friend took windup toy paddle boards she found and turned each one into a figurine of everyone attending. See that picture. Isn’t that too much fun? I don’t care how old you are, if you’ll play like a child you’ll stay younger a lot longer.
Congratulations to all of you that still take play seriously. You play hard. You laugh hard. You celebrate silliness and juicy succulence and nerdy goofiness. We love it all.
What have you celebrated lately?
Who are you celebrating with? Are you taking advantage of small things to celebrate? Or do you have a rule that says you have to wait for big things to really celebrate? Or is your rule that you are waiting for the love of your life to show up so that you can start to celebrate? Please tell me “NO” I’m not waiting!
The world is full of juicy succulent women (Ok, we’ve been throwing that term around this weekend) who are funny and can fill your heart and soul with warmth and a sense of connection that you need. And with juicy succulent women who can make you split a gut laughing there never seems to be much that’s wrong with the world.
Good news – what an amazing weekend with beautiful weather and wonderful friends. Bad news – the weekend’s over.
With that in mind, I’m going to get back to the dock and the water and the women. And the paddle board races!
About Mary Gorham Malia:
Mary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life, divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from being lost and late to lesbian life to being a seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.
Her business, Gay Girl Dating, LLC, was founded on the belief that lesbian, gay, queer, bi and transgender women can live extraordinary lives when they understand the principles and practices that make life great and put these practices into action in their own lives.
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