Hit RESET!!
We all have bad days…. As long as we’re on planet Earth, some days just don’t work out right. It’s worse when our day starts out challenging! Maybe it’s work that’s getting tough. Or maybe it’s children who won’t listen. And perhaps it’s letting go of a relationship. When a relationship ends, that’s going to mean some challenging days ahead. Knowing when and how to hit your own reset button is important. And then connecting with YOURSELF to more consciously manage your emotions is key.
So…. Let’s look at this objectively.
What do you do when your car dies? You jump it!
What do you do when your computer crashes? You reboot it!
What can you do when your day is tanking fast? Reset your emotional thermostat.
What do you do when your day starts out on the floor emotionally? Stand the hell up, that’s what. You really are in charge of your emotions in so many more ways than you think. You can shift from being depressed to feeling good to feeling great. Hell yeah, it takes some effort and focus, but it is totally worth it.
Hit RESET!
Take three minutes. Make yourself do some slow deep breathing if you’re all tense. I can guarantee that if you’re tense, you are holding your breathe! Put on your running shoes if you’re dragging butt and get your blood moving!
Change up the dialogue in your head. You know that endless commentary where you’re beating yourself up or beating up your ex-girlfriend or partner. No one is winning the war in your head. You are creating your own suffering! STOP! Hit Reset and start telling yourself loving thoughts.
Say kind, loving and tender things to yourself. Do I mean talk to yourself? Again, hell yeah! You’re talking to yourself all day anyway. Do it consciously and with the intention to make yourself feel better. It’s simple but not easy. Why, cause most of you don’t love yourselves much. You don’t forgive yourself. You don’t let go of your own mistakes and that’s why you won’t let go of the mistakes others make either.
Shift the dialogue! Shift what you are doing with your body!
Do something out of the ordinary! Run around the house FAST! Take a few deep breaths & force yourself to ONLY breathe deeply for 3 minutes, no thinking allowed.
When you are driving and road rage is coming up. Do something different. Send a blessing to other drivers. Stop your car. Get out and run around your car 4 or 5 times. Shift your physical energy and your mental and emotional energy will follow.
Take a three minute shower!
Shut everything down…. OR
Put everything into overdrive for three minutes.
Your crisis will be less daunting & you will get a fresh perspective. You’ll feel better. You’ll be healthier. And eventually you’ll be a lot happier too.
The only difference between those who work through and those who go under is who hit refresh & connect and who didn’t.
Come connect with me on Facebook. Tell me if you hit the Reset button today and why.
big hugs to all of you. hug! hug! hug! Mary
About Mary Gorham Malia:
Mary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life, divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from lost and angry teenager to seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.Gay Girl Dating Coach, LLC PO Box 10924, Portland, ME 04104 | Office: 207-450-1611| (c) 2012 Gay Girl Dating Coach, LLC
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I have to hit the reset button about 20-100 times a day. I keep running into the woman who burned a hole into my heart. The reason my reset numbers are so high is because the hole ain’t patched up yet. The most astonishing and depressing aspect of my life is that i don’t have a clue what genuine female relationships are about. All of my adult life has been about my education and building my career so most of my time was used to establish and nurturing relationships with female clients, female peers, female professionals, etc. Having an intimate relationship with females, and I am not talking sexual, but a deeper level of friendship than just associates, was not my experience. Sure I have friends but we never went beyond the superficial stage. Our conversations were and still are about our accomplishments, our children’s academic successes, renovating our home, buying a new car, so and so died, he is getting divorced, she had an affair, the gangs and crime are terrible in the next town, the chicken is on sale for 59 cents a pound at the grocery store, have to clean my clean house, the latest tv show, and on and on and on. My friendships look so shallow. Our conversations have never entered into the “What are you feeling” stage. It’s like I am waking up and realizing there is another complete life out there for me to experience. It is imperative that I make this new life happen. No, I don’t have to move. No, I don’t have to throw every thing I worked for down the toilet. However, if I have to make life changes, I will. I want to be totally devoted to my partner/wife and I will go where that path leads. Or, I can stay right where I am at and she will move. In the whole scheme of things geographical area, what’s the square foot of my house, are the counter tops granite or laminate, how expensive are my clothes, do I wine and dine in expensive restaurants have no meaning if we can’t share what we are feeling with each other and the rest of the world. Have a blessed day.