We all have bad days…. As long as we’re on planet Earth, some days just don’t work out right. It’s worse when our day starts out challenging! Maybe it’s work that’s getting tough. Or maybe it’s children who won’t listen. And perhaps it’s letting go of a relationship. When a relationship ends, that’s going to mean some challenging days ahead. Knowing when and how to hit your own reset button is important. And then connecting with YOURSELF to more consciously manage your emotions is key.
So…. Let’s look at this objectively.
What do you do when your car dies? You jump it!
What do you do when your computer crashes? You reboot it!
What can you do when your day is tanking fast? Reset your emotional thermostat.
What do you do when your day starts out on the floor emotionally? Stand the hell up, that’s what. You really are in charge of your emotions in so many more ways than you think. You can shift from being depressed to feeling good to feeling great. Hell yeah, it takes some effort and focus, but it is totally worth it.
Take three minutes. Make yourself do some slow deep breathing if you’re all tense. I can guarantee that if you’re tense, you are holding your breathe! Put on your running shoes if you’re dragging butt and get your blood moving!
Change up the dialogue in your head. You know that endless commentary where you’re beating yourself up or beating up your ex-girlfriend or partner. No one is winning the war in your head. You are creating your own suffering! STOP! Hit Reset and start telling yourself loving thoughts.
Say kind, loving and tender things to yourself. Do I mean talk to yourself? Again, hell yeah! You’re talking to yourself all day anyway. Do it consciously and with the intention to make yourself feel better. It’s simple but not easy. Why, cause most of you don’t love yourselves much. You don’t forgive yourself. You don’t let go of your own mistakes and that’s why you won’t let go of the mistakes others make either.
Shift the dialogue! Shift what you are doing with your body!
Do something out of the ordinary! Run around the house FAST! Take a few deep breaths & force yourself to ONLY breathe deeply for 3 minutes, no thinking allowed.
When you are driving and road rage is coming up. Do something different. Send a blessing to other drivers. Stop your car. Get out and run around your car 4 or 5 times. Shift your physical energy and your mental and emotional energy will follow.
Take a three minute shower!
Shut everything down…. OR
Put everything into overdrive for three minutes.
Your crisis will be less daunting & you will get a fresh perspective. You’ll feel better. You’ll be healthier. And eventually you’ll be a lot happier too.
The only difference between those who work through and those who go under is who hit refresh & connect and who didn’t.
Come connect with me on Facebook. Tell me if you hit the Reset button today and why.
big hugs to all of you. hug! hug! hug! Mary
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