Hey, What Did You Say Gay Girl? Who’s Listening?

Hey what did you say? Speak up, I can’t hear you! Are you talking to me? Are you talking to anyone?

Is anyone listening to what you say?

As part of writing blog articles, hosting live events, doing tele-seminars and group coaching events, it’s always my goal to understand the needs of woman that are attending before the event takes place. Often I’ll use a survey to get to what women really want and what would serve them best during the event. Click here to jump ahead and take my survey.

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I’m also always listening to what you say as you post comments to the Gay Girl Dating Coach website, Facebook and Twitter. I have to tell you that your comments are really important to me. I do pay attention to them and track things that I want to respond to by blog post in the future. There are some women who write me directly using the Contact page to the website or by just hitting reply to any of the emails I send out on a regular basis. I read every email and comment personally.

It’s important to me that I hear your voice.

It’s important that you know that there is a real conversation going on here and I’m always looking for ways to raise the energy level of the conversation we are having here. On a regular basis, I’ll hear from a gay woman somewhere that I must have been reading her mind. Am I reading your mind yet?

Ok I’m laughing here and I hope you are also. Reading minds is one of the great foibles of dating isn’t it. You’ve said or had a woman say to you, “Well you should just know what I want!” But that doesn’t work very well does it? That’s because the Universe (or God if you prefer) has set things up so that we have to talk to each other. Imagine that!

You have to communicate in order to get your needs met. When you go to a restaurant, you have to place an order with a waitress and she’s got to be listening to you.  Only then is food prepared and delivered to your table. Ok, that seems obvious and simple but think of all the places where you’re not being so direct about what you want and need. Or maybe you are and the other person isn’t listening. Yeah, that’s why dating and relationships can be so hard. We don’t say what we really want or need. We hide it. Or we don’t want to hear what our girlfriend, partner, date is saying.

Today, I’m listening. You’re part is to tell me what you want and need. Ok? Deal?

I have a special favor to ask of you as one of my readers.

As you may know, I’m getting ready to launch a national event – Live Your Best Lesbian Life: 40, 50 and Beyond. It’s a first of its kind tele-summit event and it’s going to have a wonderful impact here at Gay Girl Dating Coach. After the event, I’ll be getting ready to launch a couple of new services based on feedback and input I’m getting from you.

So I’d like to ask you to spend a couple of minutes answering 6 questions to a survey about your dating life. I’ve kept it simple and quick and you can access the survey by clicking on this link. I’ll be sharing the results with you in a couple of weeks.

Now the secret that no one else will know about later is that after the big summit event, I’ll be running another survey. I want you to know about it now. It will be different from this survey and targeted to new readers who haven’t been following me for a while and who may or may not be a great match for Gay Girl Dating Coach. So today’s survey is special and just for you.

Click here to take the survey.

Thank you ahead of time to each of you that responds. You are helping me to make this site and the work Gay Girl Dating Coach does relevant and meaningful. Otherwise, there’s no point!  Love to all of you!  xo, Mary

About Mary Gorham Malia:

Mary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life, divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from lost and angry teenager to seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.