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WOW, Mary. The summit was an excellent idea! So far so good with the speakers. I could identify with each woman, in some parts, with their story. My oldest daughter was listening to one woman discussing health care for lesbians and she shouts, “Yay.” It was a beautiful moment.

As I listened to the speakers I understood several things. 1) Late in life lesbians are a hot commodity for marketers and businesses. We are interested in travel, fashion, cars, food, or any product that we desire and we want to purchase these items from lesbian business owners. These women would have my loyalty and I would look at their store first before going elsewhere.

2) Something has to unite late in life lesbians. I don’t think we are motivated to change our looks all that much on the outside. I mean, I have desires to see myself as a butch lesbian but I don’t think I am going all out to “look” butch. I will most likely keep my appearance and personality because it is my comfort zone. I think I am beyond my years of making bold, political statements. If I were younger, I would go all out and I would be a butch deluxe!

3) I’m not sure late in life lesbians are all that interested in going to bars/clubs to socialize or look for dates. I know I’m not. Over the years I have witnessed how alcohol and drugs have ruined individuals and families lives. Also, I don’t want my woman to have a substance abuse problem. I have a friend who uses alcohol to “relax.” In order for her to reach the “relaxed” stage, she will have to get drunk. Most people would say she is abusing alcohol and I would agree. I am not opposed to drinking alcohol but my goal is to have fun on a date and I don’t want to be with a woman who has to use alcohol to loosen up, to get courage, and to become more friendly just to cope in my presence.

4) I am not sure late in life lesbians find using social media all that effective to the point they can say they are “very satisfied” with on line dating. I understand the concept of Facebook and how it is used for data collection of people who use it and is used as an advertising medium for brands. It has its purpose. It is great for connecting with people because it has a zillion members. For me, the wide spectrum of women that it covers is too distracting for me. Moreover, my Facebook profile is not just about me, but me and my 2 beautiful daughters. I am not sure how all three of us “fits in” with on line dating. (I do want to clarify that when it comes to me having a relationship with a woman, I will be making the decisions, not my daughters.) I assume most late in life lesbians have biological children, adopted children, and some are grandmothers and they may not feel comfortable trying to hook up with a woman that lives two thousand miles away.

5) Lesbians look different in this era than in other times. When I was growing up, and to some extent, even today, I have interacted with lesbians who expressed zero maternal desires. There were no children in the picture. They loved their nieces but that was it. They were often seen as the activists for gay rights…the trailblazers. These women are still activists attempting to get equal rights for LGBTQ’s. Today, late in life lesbian activism is in voting. I can get information from the television or the internet about politicians and on election day, I get to leave the house and vote. It requires minimal effort on my part. Voting is just as important as grass roots activism. We need both to overcome homophobia.

So, Mary, I said all of this to say what? This week I heard the businesswomen speak at your summit. They all have their angle on the lesbian market. Do I want to go to a dance to meet a potential partner or to just socialize? Do I want to go to a boot camp to learn how to date or just to socialize? Do I want to hear a lesbian comedian and LMAO? Whatever the angle, the only requirement is that I get off my duff and get out of the house and go do something with my life. I have no problems getting my ass in gear. However, most likely if I travel the travel package will be geared towards a family trip. If I go to the comedy club where the comedy may be too abrasive and too adult, I will not be bringing my children. I learned I have choices and I can have variety. How awesome is that! Have a blessed day.

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