Well, are you doomed to be alone forever? Only if you let it stay that way.
I’m not a genius, but I’ve been able to learn from some well-known geniuses. One of them is Albert Einstein. The world agrees that the man was a genius. So here’s one of his quotes:
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein.
When I hear from readers who are telling me things like:
- I can’t make a relationship last
- I can’t find a relationship
- I’m overweight but I’m only attracted to slender beautiful women who don’t want me
- I have no friends
- I have no gay friends
- I never go out
- I want a girlfriend but can’t find one
- I’m complicated and need someone to understand me
- I’m only attracted to women who are beautiful and fit but I’m not
Well, what I want to do is slap myself on the forehead and then shake you up a bit. So I’m going to ask you, “Are You Insane?” No, I didn’t think so but you have created the world you live in. If you don’t like it you have the power to change it. But do you really want to change?
Do You Need to Turn on the Lights?
Look at that list again. Do you see any patterns? Now think about Einstein’s quote. Is there a light coming on?
When we keep getting the same old crap in life, do you ever stop and ask yourself, “What the heck am I doing that this crap keeps showing up in my life?” And how about “What the heck do I need to change in my life so that different things start showing up that I like a whole lot better?”
You are only doomed if you keep doing the same old things over and over. If you never go out and meet new people, you’ll never have any new friends. If you don’t exercise and don’t eat a healthy diet you’re going to feel like crap. (Ok, crap is my special word of the day for this post.)
Your Life is a Reflection of Your Choices
If you don’t swallow your pride and talk down your fear, you are doomed to be alone forever. Are you ready to get mad about that? Are you ready to stand up and shout to the world – NO MORE! I’m not living like this another day?
Your life is a reflection of the choices you make. You really do have all the power you need to change your life.
Make a new decision. Ask a different question. Instead of asking “why does this always happen to me?” try asking yourself, God, the Universe, Spirit… “what can I do differently starting today?”
Then get quiet and listen for the answer. Don’t argue with the answer that shows up cause it’s probably so simple you’re ego will be offended but you’ve always had the answers in you. You just need to ask better questions.
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You can change your life starting today.
Stop complaining and start taking action. Do something you’ve been telling yourself you can’t do. Go out to an event in your community. Go to a coffee shop and TALK to some people. Call a long lost friend and say “hello, I’ve been thinking about you and just wanted to say I hope all is good in your world.” Then instead of bitching, be a friend who listens.
It’s time to change your story, break out of your old rules and start loving yourself into a beautiful and loving life and relationship. Only YOU can make it happen.
I can coach you, encourage you, spank you and challenge you but it still comes down to you taking action in new ways.
Are we clear? I’m sending you love and gratitude. Thank you for sharing your hearts and I hope you’ll find the love – tough love – in my post to you today.
So today, come and find me on Facebook and tell me what you think? What you’re going to change? Or did I piss you off? Maybe enough to make that change you’ve been afraid to make? I hope so.
Happiness is more than a date!
Mary Gorham Malia is a gay girl who’s passed the age of 50, survived menopause, hot flashes and night sweats, raised two children, came out later in life and divorced, grew from being a baby dyke to a lesbian with many dating experiences, has been rescued from cubicle nation and now finds the wisdom of being a bit older as the salvation she always wanted. She’s gone from being lost and late to lesbian life to being a seasoned life traveler who has a commitment to reach out to the lesbian nation and make a difference for lgbt women.
Her business, Gay Girl Dating, LLC, was founded on the belief that lesbian, gay, queer, bi and transgender women can live extraordinary lives when they understand the principles and practices that make life great and put these practices into action in their own lives.
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